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Advice You - What To Do When Coaching Takes Criticism - 8 Things I Personally Try To Live By
Coaching Prediction #3: There will be an increase in mainstream criticism of coaching and the self-help industry as a whole.
First - don't get me wrong, I'm not fearmongering here. But experience tells me that with topics such as Law of Attraction gaining so much ground so rapidly, and Oprah taking on 'The Secret' and so on, there will be push-back.
And the criticism will take many forms, some visible and some invisible - the latter even sometimes comes from family and friends.
But here's the thing about cr
First - don't get me wrong, I'm not fearmongering here. But experience tells me that with topics such as Law of Attraction gaining so much ground so rapidly, and Oprah taking on 'The Secret' and so on, there will be push-back.
And the criticism will take many forms, some visible and some invisible - the latter even sometimes comes from family and friends.
But here's the thing about cr
According to USFDA, a combination product is one composed of any combination of a drug and device; biological product and device; drug and biological product
iticism: most of the time I believe there's something in it that's of value, that can be 'taken like a vitamin' so as to make us stronger. It gives us 'rigor' as it were.
Which is why I try to listen carefully to critics. Because in all of our idealism and desire for a better world, it still pays to have a discerning eye, yes?
In response to the questions I've received about this prediction, probably the most useful thing I can publish is a list I've made of "8 Things I Personally Try to Live By, as an active pract
Which is why I try to listen carefully to critics. Because in all of our idealism and desire for a better world, it still pays to have a discerning eye, yes?
In response to the questions I've received about this prediction, probably the most useful thing I can publish is a list I've made of "8 Things I Personally Try to Live By, as an active pract
; or drug, device, and biological product and fixed dose combination would include two or more combinations of drug.
Examples of combination products may in
Examples of combination products may in
cing coach." As I process questions about the efficacy of coaching, handle push-back, or even take criticism, I like to test myself against what's said and tweak or refine. It's a little like a 'living code of conduct' and one of my most fundamental tools for growth.
In no particular order:
(1) Be responsible. First, last and foremost - do no harm.
As simple a baseline as this is for any coach, it's still one worth noting. I find this one grounds me when I read it as I do from time to time - and helps me ta
In no particular order:
(1) Be responsible. First, last and foremost - do no harm.
As simple a baseline as this is for any coach, it's still one worth noting. I find this one grounds me when I read it as I do from time to time - and helps me ta
lude drug-coated devices, drugs packaged with delivery devices in medical kits, and drugs and devices packaged separately but intended to be used together.
e a light touch in sessions.
Have you asked yourself lately, how responsible (or irresponsible) are you being in your coaching? Are you going out on a limb and taking unnecessary risks? Even if they're just words to you, what you say and do, how you 'are,' in your sessions can have a lifelong impact. So these are words to live by - even if you think 'you know.' First, do no harm.
(2) Come to understand all clients will be 'done' one day.
There are short client relationships, and long client relationships. B
Have you asked yourself lately, how responsible (or irresponsible) are you being in your coaching? Are you going out on a limb and taking unnecessary risks? Even if they're just words to you, what you say and do, how you 'are,' in your sessions can have a lifelong impact. So these are words to live by - even if you think 'you know.' First, do no harm.
(2) Come to understand all clients will be 'done' one day.
There are short client relationships, and long client relationships. B
here is enormous increase in the number of combination products entering the market in the recent years. Combination products have proven advantages but fixe
ut no client relationship is forever. I like to look into the future a little and 'wonder' when a certain client may be 'done' and ready to move on, having grown out of our relationship. Not anticipate or force, mind you, just wonder...
Or, if I don't sense a feeling of 'completion' forthcoming with a client, I ask what's going on in the coaching that's lending us such a degree of 'comfort.' I don't doubt it's possible to have a coach-client relationship that's alive and awake after 5, 10 or more years, but I feel s
Or, if I don't sense a feeling of 'completion' forthcoming with a client, I ask what's going on in the coaching that's lending us such a degree of 'comfort.' I don't doubt it's possible to have a coach-client relationship that's alive and awake after 5, 10 or more years, but I feel s
d dose combinations are still in the process of convincing regulatory authority on their advantages over the single ingredient formulations.
Combination pro
Combination pro
rongly these are in the minority. For everything there is a season, and all that... so yes, I look forward to witnessing great milestones in my clients' lives, and to saying a happy adieu.
Ask yourself "Are you in any way making efforts to keep your clients coming back?"
Do you know how to say goodbye to a client when it *is* time to say goodbye?*
(3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
There is a huge world of a difference between marketing your services successfully, then securing
Ask yourself "Are you in any way making efforts to keep your clients coming back?"
Do you know how to say goodbye to a client when it *is* time to say goodbye?*
(3) Cultivate self-sufficiency always. Be a no-addiction zone.
There is a huge world of a difference between marketing your services successfully, then securing
ucts have become life saving products for the pharmaceutical companies who doesn�t have many innovative molecules in their product pipeline and have been inc
client as a result and ....creating an addictive relationship. Yet sometimes the differences can get blurry.
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, som
This is one of the reasons why it's critically important that coaches are never desperate for a client...the dynamic is instantly manipulative if that's the case.
I remember a mentor coach who I shadowed at the very beginning of my introduction to coaching. I had a visceral aversion to the way he seemed to revel in his clients' dependency...he would answer emails at all hours, always return phone calls, som
easingly used in the product life cycle management. Even the companies having product patents are trying to extend their product life cycle through the combi
etimes within a few minutes, encourage clients to be in touch very frequently...
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't always reply quickly - they get a chance to think over their own questions. My answer comes more as an affirmation or addition to their own thoughts - but this way the key result is: they learn to think more assertively for themselves, and I'm the environment th
On the face of it, this may seem like a strange thing to dislike...but I'm a fan of drawing out more self-sufficiency in a client. So I set it up that way - clients know I won't always reply quickly - they get a chance to think over their own questions. My answer comes more as an affirmation or addition to their own thoughts - but this way the key result is: they learn to think more assertively for themselves, and I'm the environment th
nation products and maximize the revenues. But the companies involved in this practice are overlooking that they are burdening the patients both economically
t supports that.
How might you be creating - even in a tiny way - a dependency on you in your clients? How can you embody tough love - the kind of love that creates strong individuals who don't need anything outside their own inner strength to continue on the path they've discovered? How might your financial situation be influencing how you relate to your clients?
(4) Focus on results, not just methodology or process.
Although results don't have to be money, or a promotion, relationship or other tangible th
How might you be creating - even in a tiny way - a dependency on you in your clients? How can you embody tough love - the kind of love that creates strong individuals who don't need anything outside their own inner strength to continue on the path they've discovered? How might your financial situation be influencing how you relate to your clients?
(4) Focus on results, not just methodology or process.
Although results don't have to be money, or a promotion, relationship or other tangible th
and physically. They need to rightly judge the benefits of the combination products and they have to even look at the risks involved when combining the produ
ng, do ask yourself what intangible results you are creating. The best way to do this is still (only) to request your clients' self-assess.
Many clients may not realize they have the right to always be assessing your coaching relationship. You can help them by making sure they know they can always ask for tweaks, more focus, greater intensity or, indeed, whatever it is they want more of.
Coaching is not a 'holding pattern.'
(5) Encourage critical thinking.
Have you ever wondered why so many of us use our b
Many clients may not realize they have the right to always be assessing your coaching relationship. You can help them by making sure they know they can always ask for tweaks, more focus, greater intensity or, indeed, whatever it is they want more of.
Coaching is not a 'holding pattern.'
(5) Encourage critical thinking.
Have you ever wondered why so many of us use our b
ts. Some of the combination products were well accepted by physicians while others suffered. Companies involved in development of combination products are fi
ains as storage facilities not thinking facilities? We go to conferences, listen to tapes, even read books with the goal of retaining as much as possible. This is not the original purpose for the human brain.
So first, think about how you might have stopped thinking critically about things, instead of just trying to remember things. And then, up the ante and ask how you can support your clients to think for themselves.
Most clients, as they articulate what they want and make choices about their lives, may not be th
So first, think about how you might have stopped thinking critically about things, instead of just trying to remember things. And then, up the ante and ask how you can support your clients to think for themselves.
Most clients, as they articulate what they want and make choices about their lives, may not be th
ding difficulty in defining their combination products and facing various challenges from selecting a combination to marketing it.
Following aspects would a
Following aspects would a
inking for themselves. Instead, they're thinking what everyone around them is thinking. Or perhaps even more frequently, thinking what people around them are telling them to think.
So obviously you as their coach have no agenda for what they ought to think, but you are asking them to think. Make sense?
(6) Be aware of your own persuasive powers. Triple check your marketing.
Although I don't remember the precise incident, I do remember the feeling - it thudded into my physical body. I realized that with the
So obviously you as their coach have no agenda for what they ought to think, but you are asking them to think. Make sense?
(6) Be aware of your own persuasive powers. Triple check your marketing.
Although I don't remember the precise incident, I do remember the feeling - it thudded into my physical body. I realized that with the
dd to the challenges in developing combination products:
Which markets to tap where the combination products can do fairly well?
Which combination prod
Which markets to tap where the combination products can do fairly well?
Which combination prod
ay I try to live my life, and the things I try to stand for, when I try to sell something, I need to be careful.
I realized, if I were to try hard enough, I could probably sell almost anything to anyone. And I do believe that's true of many, many coaches, just because of how 'in integrity' most of us live our lives.
That's not arrogance, it's just a reflection of the kinds of relationships we create - we care, and it usually shows, and people feel they can trust us. So while I would never intentionally sell somethi
I realized, if I were to try hard enough, I could probably sell almost anything to anyone. And I do believe that's true of many, many coaches, just because of how 'in integrity' most of us live our lives.
That's not arrogance, it's just a reflection of the kinds of relationships we create - we care, and it usually shows, and people feel they can trust us. So while I would never intentionally sell somethi
cts are meaningful and rational?
Which therapeutic categories to select?
Which Combinations can address unmet needs of the patients?
Do combin
Which therapeutic categories to select?
Which Combinations can address unmet needs of the patients?
Do combin
g inappropriately to anyone, this is important - I triple check my marketing. (1) I make doubly sure I've told the truth. (2) I ask myself if I've overpromised anything. And (3) I make sure what I'm selling is something that will add value.
After all of that is done, I usually dial back my marketing language by 5-10%. It's just something that 'feels right' to do because there's enough marketing noise out there and I'm not interested in having to market anything 'hard.' It's kind of like a commitment to making sure a
After all of that is done, I usually dial back my marketing language by 5-10%. It's just something that 'feels right' to do because there's enough marketing noise out there and I'm not interested in having to market anything 'hard.' It's kind of like a commitment to making sure a
tions increase the patient compliance?
What would be the developing cost?
How to tackle the risks encountered during combination product developmen
What would be the developing cost?
How to tackle the risks encountered during combination product developmen
nyone who purchases something from me is doing so with as clear a head as possible.
Note: For a portion of the coaching population, this one won't apply because you're actually having to learn to market enough - so don't hold back if that's you. But you know who you are - if you seem to be able to sell most anything to anyone - take a moment now to ask why, and if your conscience is clear about this 'talent.'
(7) Very few things are all good or all bad. There's really no such thing as all black or all white.
Note: For a portion of the coaching population, this one won't apply because you're actually having to learn to market enough - so don't hold back if that's you. But you know who you are - if you seem to be able to sell most anything to anyone - take a moment now to ask why, and if your conscience is clear about this 'talent.'
(7) Very few things are all good or all bad. There's really no such thing as all black or all white.
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As combination products don't fit into the traditional categories of drugs, medical devices, or biological products, the USFDA is in the process of devel
As combination products don't fit into the traditional categories of drugs, medical devices, or biological products, the USFDA is in the process of devel
Over the years I've lived through some tough business situations where some pretty big tomatoes were thrown. It would be easy even now to think horrible things about some people. But the truth is, after my emotions are cooled off, I know that no one is all good or all bad, least of all me.
So instead of using up energy 'hating' a person or situation, or soaking in upset, I try to pull back and recognize there's no such thing as black or white. No single person, place or thing is all good or all bad.
Practically sp
ping new procedures for reviewing their safety, efficacy and quality.
Professional from academic institutions, pharmaceutical industries, health care indust
Professional from academic institutions, pharmaceutical industries, health care indust
aking then, how can you apply this to your life as a coach? Let's say a little criticism comes your way.
When someone hurls an insult at you, try to divide it by three before letting it in.
And conversely when a compliment comes, multiply by three and repeat the words to yourself before letting that in too. :-)
(8) Contribute to a body of ethics or standards of conduct.
I've been asking myself this question more often lately, especially on creative hiatus this month. Within the self-help and coaching profe
When someone hurls an insult at you, try to divide it by three before letting it in.
And conversely when a compliment comes, multiply by three and repeat the words to yourself before letting that in too. :-)
(8) Contribute to a body of ethics or standards of conduct.
I've been asking myself this question more often lately, especially on creative hiatus this month. Within the self-help and coaching profe
y and representatives from various regulatory agencies are working out to design the regulatory requirements for manufacture and sale of combination products
ssions, how can I help forward the idea that we can hold ourselves accountable? There is more and more activity being done under the 'name' of 'coaching' some of it not so great.
So in an unregulated industry, how can we seize the singular opportunity we have, to hold ourselves to the highest level of integrity?
Whether it be at our industry associations such as the IAC and/or the ICF, or on our own through our own professional codes of conduct or even personal lists like this one, how can we answer to the critics
So in an unregulated industry, how can we seize the singular opportunity we have, to hold ourselves to the highest level of integrity?
Whether it be at our industry associations such as the IAC and/or the ICF, or on our own through our own professional codes of conduct or even personal lists like this one, how can we answer to the critics
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As there is an increasing trend of the combination products companies manufacturing such products should be able to tackle the problems involved in the de
As there is an increasing trend of the combination products companies manufacturing such products should be able to tackle the problems involved in the de
n a positive way?
As the answers emerge, we become more equipped to calmly and intelligently answer any positive push-back that might come our way.
I hope this list of things I try to live by, helps you create your own.
Overt criticism or no, I can think of nothing more useful and comforting - invigorating and energizing - than to know where I stand and how I feel about these 8 things (over and above coaching skill, technique or experience.)
For better or for worse, when it comes to serving my clients, this is wh
As the answers emerge, we become more equipped to calmly and intelligently answer any positive push-back that might come our way.
I hope this list of things I try to live by, helps you create your own.
Overt criticism or no, I can think of nothing more useful and comforting - invigorating and energizing - than to know where I stand and how I feel about these 8 things (over and above coaching skill, technique or experience.)
For better or for worse, when it comes to serving my clients, this is wh
elopment. They need to be wiser in analyzing the market trends and the regulatory requirements.
Companies that provide selfless information through particip
Companies that provide selfless information through particip
t's going on in the background. And what I try to live by as an active practicing coach.
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*A lovely story about saying goodbye comes to me from the dusty corners of my memory. It's a buddhist story I believe, about a favorite mug.
Think of your most favorite mug. You love it and enjoy using it every time. But one day, it breaks, and is gone. Instead of being upset and unhappy that it's gone, what if you could say 'ah, there it goes.'
Because for everything there is a beginning and an end...'ah, there it goes.
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*A lovely story about saying goodbye comes to me from the dusty corners of my memory. It's a buddhist story I believe, about a favorite mug.
Think of your most favorite mug. You love it and enjoy using it every time. But one day, it breaks, and is gone. Instead of being upset and unhappy that it's gone, what if you could say 'ah, there it goes.'
Because for everything there is a beginning and an end...'ah, there it goes.
tion in industry events and feedback to regulatory authorities would be able to face the challenges and will be successful in developing combination products
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